When two people reach a disagreement, the conclusion both individuals come to is to raise their voices. Or if the agreement is one sided, the person who is angered comes to the conclusion that the only way something can be done is to raise their voice.

If someone raises their voice, obviously that's going to garner attention. That's a given. And if the person being yelled at isn't all that confrontational, they'll abide to whatever the person is saying purely because of the attention being on them.

Recently, I ended up in a situation where I was yelled at by someone of authority (a professor) regardless of following the rules. The key thing for me was to maintain composure, react calmly, and remain kind.

It takes nothing in a person to be kind, almost as though being kind is a human default, but it takes everything in a person to be rude to someone else.

In terms of kindness, an example can be Saffiyah Khan. She did not meet anger with anger, hate with hate, rather she met anger & hate with a smile.

If you take anything from this blogpost, let it be this: Raising your voice does not prove your point - having facts that support your argument does. Anger does not have to be met with an even louder voice: Choose Kindness.

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About a year ago, I remember thinking to myself what if I didn't talk as much as I usually do when I am around friends - would they notice?

Well, after I did that test it turns out they didn't notice. But I did. Me not saying small things here and there was basically me attempting to change my personality to suit those around me.

and uh no thank you that was not fun.

This consisted of me having a lot of things I wanted to say chill in my mind because I felt that I was bothering people by voicing my thoughts.

The way I think of it now- if you have to change your personality to suit your friends then plot twist: They aren't your friends.

Your friends shouldn't attempt to change the person you are for the person they want you to be. A person grows on their own, not by being shoved in multiple directions based on how a friend wants them to be.

Now you may be wondering why exactly I paired this blogpost with a photo of trees & a leaf falling down. The idea behind that is that there are multiple trees and although one leaf is coming to the ground that doesn't mean the other leaves are suddenly going to go to the ground. No, they are going to stay and when it's their time to, they will come down to the ground (as per seasons changing).

It's the same with people.

Although a lot of people are acting one way, that shouldn't stop you from being you

You do you not someone else.

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Recently, I came across a short film called "Domestic Policy" due to procrastination at its finest, and if you aren't following me on Twitter when I tweeted about it - stop right here and go watch it, it's only 6 minutes and 40 seconds!

SUMMARY OF THE FILM

A satirical comedy which wryly suggests that today's obsession with female appearance was borne out of one official government meeting that took place just after WW1.

(side note - not sure if they meant WW2 in the summary of the film?)

This short film made me wonder when exactly was female appearance the sole focus for women? As mentioned in the film, women were building munition, airplanes, ships- also in WW2 many women were mechanics (To name one - Queen Elizabeth II trained in London as a mechanic and military truck driver) (If you just type in 'Queen Elizabeth mechanic during the war' in Google, and select images, you can see for yourself!)

I understand that the appearance of a woman was always somewhat there, but what enlarged it to essentially what it is today? I've searched and came up blank.

If we look back into history on what women were doing, they were mechanics during the war, building airplanes etc. yet now people are saying oh that's not a job for a woman? 

A woman is capable of anything if she keeps her mind to it. Being a woman does not mean she is less intelligent (looking at you Polish MEP), it does not mean she is incapable of handling large mathematical equations (have you seen Hidden Figures?)- all limitations of what a women can do is, in some ways, male constructed and in someways self imposed by women themselves because of what they hear they should do rather than contribute to society with what they want to do.

I'm not saying drop the beauty blender and pick up an engineering textbook - what I'm saying is, if you want, you can have the beauty blender in one hand and the engineering textbook in the other.  (Or whatever textbook you want to hold.) You don't have to choose one or the other, you can do both. Don't limit yourself to one thing, the word multitasking isn't there for modeling in the dictionary. If you want to do just one thing, that's cool too, just know that there's nothing stopping you from doing more than one.

If you choose to watch the short film- let me know your thoughts in the comments below! (or on Twitter, I basically live on Twitter.)

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