About a year ago, I remember thinking to myself what if I didn't talk as much as I usually do when I am around friends - would they notice?

Well, after I did that test it turns out they didn't notice. But I did. Me not saying small things here and there was basically me attempting to change my personality to suit those around me.

and uh no thank you that was not fun.

This consisted of me having a lot of things I wanted to say chill in my mind because I felt that I was bothering people by voicing my thoughts.

The way I think of it now- if you have to change your personality to suit your friends then plot twist: They aren't your friends.

Your friends shouldn't attempt to change the person you are for the person they want you to be. A person grows on their own, not by being shoved in multiple directions based on how a friend wants them to be.

Now you may be wondering why exactly I paired this blogpost with a photo of trees & a leaf falling down. The idea behind that is that there are multiple trees and although one leaf is coming to the ground that doesn't mean the other leaves are suddenly going to go to the ground. No, they are going to stay and when it's their time to, they will come down to the ground (as per seasons changing).

It's the same with people.

Although a lot of people are acting one way, that shouldn't stop you from being you

You do you not someone else.








Recently, I came across a short film called "Domestic Policy" due to procrastination at its finest, and if you aren't following me on Twitter when I tweeted about it - stop right here and go watch it, it's only 6 minutes and 40 seconds!

SUMMARY OF THE FILM
A satirical comedy which wryly suggests that today's obsession with female appearance was borne out of one official government meeting that took place just after WW1.

(side note - not sure if they meant WW2 in the summary of the film?)

This short film made me wonder when exactly was female appearance the sole focus for women? As mentioned in the film, women were building munition, airplanes, ships- also in WW2 many women were mechanics (To name one - Queen Elizabeth II trained in London as a mechanic and military truck driver) (If you just type in 'Queen Elizabeth mechanic during the war' in Google, and select images, you can see for yourself!)

I understand that the appearance of a woman was always somewhat there, but what enlarged it to essentially what it is today? I've searched and came up blank.

If we look back into history on what women were doing, they were mechanics during the war, building airplanes etc. yet now people are saying oh that's not a job for a woman? 

A woman is capable of anything if she keeps her mind to it. Being a woman does not mean she is less intelligent (looking at you Polish MEP), it does not mean she is incapable of handling large mathematical equations (have you seen Hidden Figures?)- all limitations of what a women can do is, in some ways, male constructed and in someways self imposed by women themselves because of what they hear they should do rather than contribute to society with what they want to do.

I'm not saying drop the beauty blender and pick up an engineering textbook - what I'm saying is, if you want, you can have the beauty blender in one hand and the engineering textbook in the other.  (Or whatever textbook you want to hold.) You don't have to choose one or the other, you can do both. Don't limit yourself to one thing, the word multitasking isn't there for modeling in the dictionary. If you want to do just one thing, that's cool too, just know that there's nothing stopping you from doing more than one.

If you choose to watch the short film- let me know your thoughts in the comments below! (or on Twitter, I basically live on Twitter.)



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The internet can be a rather interesting place but too much of this interesting place isn't all that good for you. Well, too much of anything isn't good for you period.

Sometimes it feels as through the electronics control the person rather than the person controlling their usage of social media. Think of it this way:

When you wake up in the morning, before you roll out of bed, you're checking what happened while you were asleep. Is it because you want to or have you gotten so used to the routine of checking your phone at all times during the day?

I personally can say that the only reason why I am on twitter is to see what else happened in terms of politics & also some fun things that happen to sprinkle on my timeline. In terms of Instagram - I scroll out of habit not because I genuinely want to see what's on my Instagram. 

I used to use Tumblr a lot, and by a lot I mean 23 of the 24 hours of the day was spent scrolling until I basically had this realization:

I am spending my life scrolling. This is not living, this is being chained to an electronic device as if I am a prisoner to my wifi router & cellular data.

The term Internet Detox is thrown around a lot. And I can say that I'd recommend taking a month off - or pull an Ed Sheeran - of anything involving the internet. It truly makes you realize the lack of substance it adds to your life.

Keep what you need and cut out what you don't.

So in terms of internet I ask myself:

Why do you need Twitter?
To keep up with politics & some random things that happen around the world.
  • Also, if you keep up with politics as well, here's a word of advice: LOOK AT MORE THAN ONE SOURCE

Why do you need Instagram?
I actually don't have an answer.

The purpose of my blogging Instagram is to post updates when I have new blogposts and videos & my actual Instagram is used on the basis of - how will what I am posting benefit others? [And also with a sprinkle of sass & humor - sort of like this blog.]
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What we see on social media shapes us. What we read and see becomes apart of who we are. In terms of books that we read, we live through the main characters ( or side characters) and we take, from these books, lessons we didn't know we needed.

Similar to the tree trunk photo I have up top - the internet makes its marks and shapes us & wouldn't you rather it be of something with substance than without?
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side note - came across this short film called #SLAVEREGINA
Summary:
The film is trying to show the virtual world and its effect on society, especially on the youngest generation. They want to fit in this new world. All rebellious intuition gets crushed by others, and they are forced to assimilate.


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